When you hold resentment, you are re-feeling and re-experiencing a wound caused by treatment that feels unjust, unfair, and just plain awful! Along with this repetitive wounding, humans tend to create a narrative that gives credence to the emotions brought on by the resentment. This makes resentments quite sticky! They can stick to you for days, months, years, and decades. But resentment is poison, a silent, insidious killer of joy, freedom, and happiness.
Resentments are so common that you may not know a life without them. A life where an injurious comment or action is viewed as a reflection of the giver, not the receiver. A life free from judgment. Not because others don't judge you but because you know their critiques have nothing to do with you; you don't care. A life where most everything that occurs has nothing to do with you. Yes, that's right. Most things don't have anything to do with you.
Try this experiment: choose a day to move through your life as a curious observer of
everything that isn't for you or about you: ask yourself those two questions, and if the answers are "No, this is not for me" and "No, this is not about me," then observe curiously. Step right up and contribute as only you can when something is for or about you! Notice how you feel after this day of accepting life without resistance.
"What about that WHOPPER?!" you might be asking. I developed a method for clearing a whopper. It is tried and true and has the power to free you for good!
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